Dreams are a reflection of the soul. Your dreamer is wise beyond words, it knows things that you don’t want to know and will show you things that you need to know. It is in touch with your emotions and reveals those you have suppressed. Your dreamer is your friend and a trustworthy counsellor. It can warn you when you start to go off in a wrong direction or when you are in danger. Dreams can also show you the correct path to take or affirm you at a deep spiritual level. Rejection, fears and painful memories can be healed while you sleep through your dreams.

For over twenty years I have been listening to my dreams. Almost every night I go to sleep with a pad of paper and pen next to my bed. On average I capture about 4 dreams a week. The Native Americans speak about the few “Big Dreams” that a person may have in their life that are significant. This ancient culture (as with most ancient cultures) has accumulated wonderful wisdom and we can learn a lot from them. I approach each dream as important and as a potential “big dream”. Some dreams may well be just doing some housekeeping and sorting things out in our mind and emotions. Most of my dreams I do not remember, many I don’t understand (but that just means I don’t understand them not that they are not accurate), and those that I think I understand I know my understanding may or may not be accurate. Dreams are my most trustworthy counsellor.

Our dreamer speaks his/her/its own unique dialect of a dream language. Like any language it takes time to learn to understand your dreamer’s language. It helps to talk to others who have experience and reading and studying are essential if you want to become confident. It takes many years of learning to trust your own interpretation of your own dreams before you can help others.

If I had time to give you only two pieces of information about dream interpretation it would be:

honour the dreamer within you by making every effort to hear what he/she or it is saying and write it down as soon after dreaming as you can,
respond to your dream – do your best to understand what the dream is saying and then obey. Often I will respond before I even have breakfast. A response may just be a change in attitude to somebody, or writing an email or turning around.
“A dream not interpreted is like a life not reflected on” somebody once said. I agree!


You will see from the three dreams I share with you below that dreams can only be interpreted if one knows the context of the dream. In other words you need to ask the question “what is going on in my life now that this dream has come to me at this time?” The other thing you will notice is how very different these three dreams are.

Shortest dream I have ever had “Bike skidding from under me”

My eyes closed for less than a second – and I woke up with a fright – but I knew instantly what the dream was telling me.

I am on my bike and both wheels slipped out from under me.

I woke up even before I hit the ground. A sudden waking up is a “wake-up” call. At the time of the dream I had just finished a lay counselling course. At the end of the course I told all those who were on the course with me that I now had the confidence to go it alone and start (lay) counselling clients. The dream made it very clear to me that I will come a cropper if I go it alone. I am glad I have learnt to listen to my dreams. At the right time and with others in my team I will do counselling. Going against the advice from my dreamer would lead to disaster – I would never take the chance.

A very graphic dream “Stabbing a fat rat”

My uncle Douglas and I are sort of lying in bed together. Rats and mice start coming out. A fat ugly rat looks at us. Uncle Douglas takes a fork and jabs it hard, very hard in the back side of the fat rat. A horrid mess comes out of the rat. The whole room is full of the stink and sticky, grey gunk is on the table. I wake up suddenly.

Context? The day before the dream I had got an email from a wise friend who used to teach me at school 40 odd years ago. In the email he said something like “I have just signed a petition calling for the impeachment of President Zuma because it has been proved he lied to parliament. There was a link to the web site and I had planned to sign the petition and encourage all I know to do the same.

To start the process of interpreting the dream I had to ask “What was the most dominate or outstanding thing about my uncle?” My uncle Douglas is the most arrogant and judgmental man I have ever know. It did not take long for me to see how the dream was alerting me to the part of me that is arrogant and judgemental. Uncle Douglas died about 17 years ago but the part of me that is arrogant and judgemental was still very much alive.

The dream was saying to me “You arrogant and judgemental lair – who gives you the right to judge and stab president Zuma in the back?” I am very glad I did not sign the petition. I now seem my role as a citizen is to speak life over our leaders. Leadership is a great responsibility and when you are being stabbed in the backside by arrogant judgemental follows it only leaves a bigger stink and mess. The dream was a lesson not to be arrogant and judgemental – not to anybody. My role as a citizen is to speak life. My attitude towards President Jacob Zuma (and any other lairs and thieves) is with humility to say “I too am a liar and a thief but I know where to find pardon and I can lead you to him.”

A fun lucid dream “Falling over a cliff”

A lucid dream is where you are aware you are dreaming and your conscious self can to some extent play an active role in the dream.

I am falling over a cliff, and again before I hit the ground I am falling a second time over the cliff. I am about to wake up but then I realise “This is a dream and the fall won’t hurt me”. As soon as I said this I was falling a third time the only difference being that this time my son David was with me.

I have learnt that when David, who is a strong young man of faith, is in my dream it is about the young man of faith that is in me or part of me.

The dream is telling me that I will make mistakes (go off the edge) but it is not serious and I won’t get hurt because I am young man of faith. I laughed – and since that dream I don’t take life too seriously and enjoy it more.

Summary of dreams

“Are dreams important?” I hear you ask. We all dream about an hour a night – about 15{be6871294f3f29402c95d74738919e0f5649a19f08275ffafda9af1392636fa3} of sleep is spent dreaming so I respond with “Yes, O Yes. I assure you they are important!”

Dreams are a perfect reflection of what is going on in our soul and spirit. What is not quite so perfect it our recollection (memory) of the dream. The interpretation we give our dream we can only be partly confident as there are almost always other possibilities and a dream may have a few levels of meanings that may or may not be revealed at a later stage.

Dream bring balance, healing and wholeness into our life. They are for our good. Even vicious evil pictures that may come to us in a dream are given for our healing and to bring balance in our life. Dreams have no guile!

Dreams are great fun and taking the trouble to meditate on them almost always brings at least some insight. Like a puzzle the picture starts to form. This is fun!!

A dream always arrives at the right time when it is needed. Respect this! Act on the dream as soon as you can. Keep a dream journal or use your regular journal.

If possible get a good counsellor who is happy to work with both you and your dreamer – or meet regularly with a trusted friend who knows the best and the worst about you and who loves you enough to tell you when your breath smells (I am talking figuratively).

It is better not to tell a person that you dreamt of him or her because almost certainly it is a part of yourself that the dream is alerting you to.

Dreams are mostly intuitive to understand for the person who dreamed … but take care and learn all you can and your intuition will be greatly sharpened.